
It had to have been at least 3 years ago that I heard this sermon called, "Just Keep Plodding." All I can remember is the preacher is dressed like a complete hobo--dirt covers his face, I mean, it looks like he got it in his eyes. He's carrying a walking stick with a cloth bag attached at the top, with who knows what inside and he's coming down the aisle of the church acting like...well, you know, like he's plodding.
He starts talking about the famous book, Pilgrim's Progress and how Christian, the main character for those of you that haven't heard of it, faces adversity but he keeps plodding. Well you can guess how he relates this to present day life. That's right: we face obstacles in life and adversity and just problems in general and we're faced with the options of giving up and backing down, or plodding.
I've been thinking about this sermon lately, I suppose because like everyone else, I face obstacles in life. Adam and I were talking about how easy it is to feel like giving up when the odds seem against you or the path of life that you've chosen to take is harder than you thought it would be. It feels hard. If you keep going, it only feels harder. Sometimes there are people around you encouraging you to give up either out of spite or because they genuinely worry what will happen when you encounter these obstacles. With such negative voices mounting, it's easy to see why giving up is almost second nature.
I'm really not here to talk about giving up, I mean that's just kind of a downer. I guess those topics are best saved for one on one time with a therapist or a bottle of something strong (just kidding!). I'm waaaaaaay more interested in plodding; It's like that poem by Robert Frost, you know the one. The Road Less Traveled. Most people give up when the going gets tough, but a few of us choose to plod.
It takes courage and a heck of a lot of inner strength to keep pushing when things hit that breaking point. We all face troublesome times whether it's through a dead end job (I know the feeling), or a supervisor that sucks the life right out of you. 3 years, 40 additional pounds, and several ulcers later, I know how tough it can be to deal with "one of those" bosses. For some people, it's much more personal than that. I have people very close to me who are haunted by hurts from the past and cursed with a mind that can't seem to let it go. Yeah, you've got challenges and heartaches you face in life? At the risk of sounding cliche, join the club.
The real question is not DO you keep plodding but HOW do you keep plodding. It takes a lot of self-care to push through when you feel like you've already exceeded your limit for difficulties. I've been asked at least twice over the last week or so, "What do you do to take care of yourself?" The most recent time I've been asked that question was at an interview I had with a children's home. A really nice lady interviewed me and she asked me that question. It got me to thinking, how can you "just keep plodding" if you don't know how to take care of yourself emotionally, IN ADDITION to physically?
In my Bachelor's program, they referred to
Compassion Fatigue a lot. What's that? It basically means that you spend so much time taking care of other people or other things and forgetting to rest and rejuvenate yourself that you start to become numb to the plight of other people. You basically just stop caring. The only antidote really is to find what it takes for you to be renewed.
Being Renewed. That seems like such a loaded statement, and I suppose it is really. For me, being renewed has a few faces. These are the things that help me to
be renewed.
A. I write. Creative writing has gotten me through some of my roughest patches in life. There is something about creative expression that simply makes you feel relieved, like you can breathe in deeply and let your troubles escape with the wind. Sometimes I journal. Sometimes I write poetry. I've noticed that when I get particularly upset or frustrated, what I really want to do is write out what happened and how pissed off I am or how upset I am. Most of the time, I write out prayers to ask God to help me handle life a little better. It really does help.
B. I dance. I've never had lessons and I pretty much just wing it, but I like to dance when I feel stressed. There's something calming about that--they say exercise releases endorphins in your brain that make you feel happy. I suppose that's true.
C. When all else fails...I watch the Big Bang Theory because it's freakin' hilarious and it has calmed me down and made me feel better on more than one occasion. I guess any bit of comedy will do the trick, but if you haven't seen the show, you should watch it. I dig the nerdy humor!
So basically what I'm saying is this: if we're gonna make it through this life without giving up every time something gets hard, we have to figure out how to plod. If you're gonna make the choice to push through, you're gonna have to find ways to be renewed. These are just a few ideas; there are so many other things that I do and that are just in general healthy TO do. I guess the point is, try and see what works. No, the point is to keep plodding; in order to do that, you're gonna have to find the things that help you to be renewed.
What do you do to be renewed?